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The key to living a life free from bitterness and shame in a world where I was different from everyone else was to not care about that difference. Al Capp renowned American cartoonist. We eventually find ourselves walking in the path of a lone tree branch wearing an untied shoe or speaking in front of a large crowd. It seems like the chance always comes at the worst possible times. One mispronunciation one thoughtless action or one instance of a delayed reaction time and what? A STUTTER!
Adieu! SMACK! The fluidity of our speech becomes choppy babble our strides clip-clop becomes a gorillas stamp-stomp as it tries to regain its balance and our simple daydream becomes a dizzying mess as we rub our bruised faces. Its like magic. Our self-assurance turns into shame. Aww.
Yes exactly. My friend Ive been there and back. It is not pleasant to witness much less go through embarrassment which is accompanied by red face frantic eye moments and a lack of words. Fortunately for me though Ive been in so many awkward situations that Im essentially immune. Thats why I say this. You can finally get over your embarrassment.
To be honest you wont be instantly embarrassed by all of these suggestions. While some will give you the desired quick fix others will require more practice and integration into your daily life to achieve the desired results. Eliminating embarrassment requires genuine deliberate effort just like any other skill. Dont worry about it now that my brief warning is over. Ill do my best to keep these steps as simple and straightforward as I can. 1.
Think back on your embarrassing experiences. Go back and review your most embarrassing experiences—the best or worst ones you can think of. Recall your feelings at each moment both before and after it occurred. Before being so impolitely interrupted what were you doing? Then reflect on the events of the day following your embarrassing incident. Do you still feel hurt by it or do you not care as much as you thought you did?
Did anyone actually remember it? 2. Accept these moments as they are. To overcome embarrassment accepting those past moments is another excellent strategy. Sharing them with a trusted person is the best way to accomplish this. Ive made all of the mistakes I mentioned above including stuttering while speaking tripping over my shoelace and running straight into a tree branch.
I do this by writing a blog post but you are free to share your embarrassing stories however you see fit. Any kind of art whether it be a poem song story or other creation is acceptable as long as it is shared. Remember you should also remember that life goes on. 3. While youre embarrassed divert your attention. Ive found that focusing on something else is a great technique.
How fitting for this blog post isnt it? I stumbled up the stairs just this afternoon. Rather than regretting my small error I laughed a little looked straight ahead and continued. There are a nearly infinite number of things you can focus on but in that moment my focus was on my destination. Useful techniques include paying attention to your breathing or recalling an instance in which someone else felt embarrassed. 4.
You deliberately embarrass yourself. One of the more sophisticated methods I described earlier is this one. Putting yourself in awkward situations on purpose takes a lot of confidence but the moment is always rewarding. It can be intimidating at first (I know youre being made a spectacle) but youll quickly feel completely confident no matter what embarrassing situation comes up. Get those shoes untied and prepare the yellow wet floor signs. You dont have any more time.
5. Ignore the moment and let it go. Rest your mind. Indeed its possible that everyone is laughing and pointing. Perhaps your speech briefly veered off course. You might have some facial redness and bruises.
But simply burning through it is the most effective thing you can do. You dont think you made a mistake. Funny did you trip and fall? You had no feelings at all. 6. Avoid the humiliation before it occurs.
Prevention is better than a cure as the saying goes. Since its better to be ready than to stumble while walking on a wet floor with your shoes untied those words of wisdom are still relevant today. Be mindful of your surroundings. Get ready for the interview. Before you enter the store bring cash. When enjoying hot wings and BBQ ribs keep an extra shirt with you.
Remember to tie those laces as well. Today is a day free of embarrassment. 7. Accept who you are flaws and all. Perhaps youre like me—just a strange individual who cant resist doing things that could make you look foolish. Perhaps you enjoy yelling when you should be quiet or you love throwing yourself into a business meeting with little chance of success.
Be a member of the club. Something about someone who wants to try these methods to eliminate embarrassment is appealing. They must desire to better their lives and gain self-assurance. But when someone follows these suggestions and finds success its a completely different story and they come to terms with who they are. The embarrassment stops when you let go of everything and embrace your individuality and specialness.
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