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Many of the misconceptions I once held have been (in some cases painfully and/or embarrassingly) disproved as this post demonstrates. Enjoy. Myth: To achieve the happy ending youve always desired get a degree and a job. Truth: The road to happiness might not be as simple as you believe. Be sure to ask yourself Is this it? Is this the life I saw for myself? before you go through the system and land your lucrative job.
Myth: Pay attention to your parents because they are the ones who know whats best for you. The truth is that they are very similar to you. When you are younger than eighteen it is acceptable and they will try their best to guide you in the proper direction. However there comes a time after the age of eighteen when you will need to begin asking yourself the big questions. How do you define happiness? Do your aspirations for yourself align with those of your parents? If necessary do you have the courage to go it alone?
False belief: Youll all be in a better place if you do what everyone else is doing. Truth: Another example of herd mentality. Following others is fine as long as you follow the right people. Learn from people who are already who you want to be in the end. Myth: You should always be courteous because even your sincere opinions can offend people. Truth: You cannot expect everyone to fully accept your views whether they are right or wrong good or bad. Attend to it.
Trying to please everyone while being dishonest is dishonest in and of itself. The reality is that the truth is painful. This is not an excuse for not wanting to alter them. Simply hold a strong opinion and modify it in light of reliable viewpoints. False belief: The people you make your first friends with will support you throughout your life. Semi-truth: For most people this might not be the case (at least not for me). Congratulations if youre fortunate enough to have a lifelong friendship with someone.
My friends from kindergarten through the middle of fourth grade were the same. I believed that we would always be friends. My parents decision to relocate the family across town then struck me like a ton of bricks. For a child it is a startling experience. Myth: Being nice equates to being friendly. Truth: As I would learn in public school being nice can also mean being manipulated. Dont be so naive as to believe anything but give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Not everything that glitters is made of gold. Myth: Being kind and considerate will make you more likeable than being brutally honest and a little crude. The truth is that peoples opinions should only be important to you. It all depends on the result you hope to achieve. Are people more interested in respecting you or in liking you? Maybe both? Misconception: People will respect you if you show them respect.
Truth: Well that isnt true at all. People who have disrespected me in return have received respect from me. Being courteously indifferent to other people and acting in accordance with their behavior is preferable. Misconception: You will never be like famous people because they are a completely different breed. Reality: Unless they are extraterrestrials celebrities and movie stars are very similar to you and me. We wouldnt all be famous if our upbringing had been the same. False belief: You lack the courage to challenge yourself give a speech confront your boss hike Mount Everest or venture outside of your comfort zone.
The truth is to read this post. Myth: All people are created equal. Truth: Everyone is different as far as Im aware. If that were the case poverty would not exist. No crime would exist. Everyone would be just as joyful as I am as I write this post. Everybody would have the same sentiments.
This is clearly untrue. The word equal should never be used in any way. Just too many things need to be taken into consideration. False beliefs: God exists Heaven Hell Paradise and X religion is better than Y religion. Truth: No one knows for certain whether the beautiful pictures that religious texts extol are real. It is all based on your beliefs. As long as you dont try to convert me I have no animosity toward anyone of any religion.
You will not be successful. Myth: No one is a judge. Reality: Regardless of your opinion everyone judges. Although you can attempt to avoid it everyone makes some initial judgments about others. Note that this does not imply that judgments are unchangeable. Of course they are. False belief: There is a shortcut to achieving your goals in life.
The truth is that shortcuts do not exist. Every accomplishment has required a lot of effort. You have the freedom to choose whether that work feels like play or like work. *Note: Does not include lottery winnings. Myth: Were not talented. Truth: Having a talent means being an expert at whatever you do. Are you an expert at writing the greatest essays ever baking cakes or locating items that others have misplaced?
Its a talent if you can do it better than anyone else. False belief: You can be anything you wish to be. Truth: Perhaps over the course of a lifetime. Unless youre one of the worlds best multitaskers all in one sitting. Dont forget to consider your genetic makeup. You cannot play in the NBA if you are only 5 o tall. Myth: You wont ever be betrayed by friends.
Truth: Everything is possible if the proper incentives are in place. Although it doesnt happen all the time this is a possibility. Ive had that experience. This misconception however varies according to your personal definition of a friend. Ill examine what friendship means in a subsequent post. Myth: Life will continue to be the same because it has been that way for a long time. In actuality it depends.
At least when were not living our lives like robots life is unpredictable. People occasionally move away find new interests and pick up new skills. Additionally if you want it to be life can be fairly predictable. However I encourage everyone to think about healthy change and development every day.
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