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Stop being reactive...
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Recently Ive had a lot of success using this tip when conversing. Ive been non-reactive to things that would normally set off my ignoramus-alarm making me yell shout and generally lose my cool. In order to be totally non-reactive you need to take just three actions.
1. Hold off before responding. Take a moment to consider the circumstances that might be thrown at you.
A kind of unwritten social norm states that you must respond to inquiries from others quickly and effectively. Actually there is no need for this. If I dont answer quickly enough theyll think Im stupid being rude etc.
is an example of thinking that you should stop trying to accommodate the person you are speaking with. ) and take it slow. 2.
Keep your feelings to yourself. You are free to leave any pointless conversation tense dispute or needless argument that you might unintentionally be persuaded to join. When feelings are involved tensions can increase and hurt feelings can occur.
Maintain emotional self-control and allow others to storm and crash around you while you stay as steady as a rock. 3. Do not lose sight of the next attitude.
If you say something foolish impolite or unintelligible it makes no difference. A mispronounced word during a presentation an unintentional slip of a million-dollar word or even a simple fumbling of your speech into a stutter—its not as big of a deal as you think. After all you always get another chance at conversation so why worry about the little things?
Although its crucial to watch what you say if you make a mistake just move on. Its pointless to worry about misunderstandings. Correct your mishaps as soon as possible and continue.
Tell me how this tip works for you after giving it a try today.
A self-sufficient man can put an end to adversity just as easily as he can create pleasure.
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I dont want my feelings to control me.
I desire to control enjoy and utilize them.
Oscar Wilde.
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