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It is very hard to control emotions. They are the cause of this since they have influenced our behavior since the day we were born. If we were craving ice cream we would request it and if we wanted a new shirt we would go buy one. This blog post probably wouldnt have been written if I hadnt felt like writing today.
This is more than enough evidence on its own. I believe that the majority of us are emotional slaves. Its not a bad thing then. Do not hesitate to give in to your emotions if it feels good to do so.
We have been doing that for a while as you can see. Sadly we have become so used to allowing our emotions to flow freely that we have forgotten to set boundaries. For example there are instances when someone will purposefully provoke your anger in order to watch you lose control. It is comparable to how we make people laugh by telling a funny joke or performing a comical act.
In either case we wind up doing things we never meant to do saying hurtful things we dont mean or becoming agitated over unimportant things. When that occurs its essentially just a result of engaging in reckless emotional behavior for an extended period of time. This explains why so few people are able to effectively regulate their emotions. For example lawyers and public speakers need to be proficient in this technique because of the high-stress environments they operate in.
However ordinary people like us lack the on-the-job training necessary to easily control our emotions. Thats why you have me though. Consider every chance for an outburst as an exam. As time has gone on Ive realized that we have a choice in how we approach our actions.
I now see opportunities to lose my temper as tests because of this. I simply visualize a mental scorecard in my mind that shows me two choices—yes or no—when someone tries to entice me into giving a particular answer. Either yes as in Yes Ill lose my temper this time or no as in I wont overreact this time. .
The primary lesson I want you to learn from this is that we always have the option to control ourselves or vent our rage on others. This is just what I do. Simply put it takes practice to be able to handle this in any circumstance regardless of how emotionally taxing. Its true that thinking positive thoughts helps.
Even though our emotions do have a lot of control over us they can still be controlled. Simply thinking positive thoughts is what I find to be effective though some people may choose to buy a cheap stress ball or repeatedly say reassuring phrases. Try using the power of bringing up funny memories to end a heated argument and bid your temper farewell. Ones self-control greatly improves when they remove themselves from a stressful situation and place themselves in a relaxing one.
As Ive already mentioned this technique is not simple. I suggest taking a moment to pause and consider the situation objectively. After that you just need to imagine how hilarious it will be three days from now. By then your interest will have faded.
You think thats funny? Well it wont always be when youre in the moment. On occasion you may be so furious that you are prepared to strike someone if they even come close to offending you. Indeed it occurs.
When someone pushes your buttons they expect you to respond appropriately. But thats what makes being human so wonderful. Not every situation requires us to respond in the same manner.
When we are exposed repeatedly our resistance naturally increases.
We become indifferent to these circumstances once we grow accustomed to them where people continue to press the same buttons.
I still advise developing self-control.
Its a skill that few people can acquire its simple to adapt to new situations but much more difficult to alter oneself.
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